Wise People Share What You Should Know About Marriage Before Proposing
Proposing to your significant other is one of the biggest commitments that you can make in your life.
With marriage comes arguments, in-laws, plenty of identity crises, and much more. Staying aware of what exactly the commitment brings is necessary to a healthy, long-term marriage.
Luckily, those with experience are speaking out on their secrets to success!
These Reddit users are here to share their wisdom on everything you should consider before walking down the aisle!
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#25 Make A "Deal Breaker" List
When my grandfather asked my grandmother to marry him her father made them both sit down and write a list of 10 deal breakers. They then had to discuss them all to decide if they could both live with them before he would give his blessing.
In over 50 years of marriage, neither one crossed the deal breaker line and they had a head start on open communication channels from the experience.
The other thing they did was to ensure that each of them got at least one hour of me time every day from Monday to Friday (the other would watch the kids and there would be no chores done during that time) and weekends were family time.
#24 The Non-Compromisable Topics
That you agree on the important topics:
Children (and how to raise them)
Finances/Expenditures
Future Plans
Religion
These are the likeliest topics to have little to no compromise on so if you disagree drastically it will eventually cause a rift.
#23 Be Prepared To Adapt
That people often change throughout their lives, but not just because they got married. Many people get married with either the expectation that marriage will change their significant other or that the person will stay the same forever.
Neither are correct. People will change, but not always in the ways that you expect and you have to be willing to adapt to them.
#22 The Impacts Of In-Laws
How they relate to their family and if you can handle it.
If, say, your partner's family is nauseatingly close and loves to spend time together, are you down with that? Is your partner good at setting boundaries?
In-laws can destroy relationships.
