Outraged People Share When Someone Played The "Victim Card" On Them

Have you ever blamed your little sister for breaking a family heirloom? Or pointed the finger at a classmate? We've all played the victim card at one point—some worse than others. As an adult, you've probably shared an office or apartment with people whose lives seem to be a series of dramatic incidents that are never their fault. These people live to blame others, and they can't wait to tell their tales of woe to anyone who will listen. Just ask the people below!

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#1 A Not-So-Merry Christmas

Pretty much anything my mom has ever done. She lives to be a martyr. For example, she complains that it takes her a whole week to put all the Christmas decorations up, but I told her over and over that she doesn't have to. She still does it and then complains. She gets a kick out of whining about it and playing the patron saint of misery.

#2 A Free Holiday Isn't Enough

My grandmother who has psoriasis loves bathing in the sea because her condition apparently lessens in seawater, so I booked a week-long trip to Greece. I have never been, and she has holidayed around the Mediterranean in the past, so I asked if she had a preference for location. She said she didn't mind, as long as the beach was nearby, and the holiday was all inclusive. I found a trip and ran it by her. She was happy, so I booked it.

It cost me almost $2,000 for both of us to go on this holiday. I worked my butt off and saved all year. I work three jobs: one full-time, one part-time, and one casual. We got here on Friday of last week. There were some bumps along the way. The airport changed gates, so we walked all across a terminal and back... Grandma has bad knees, so that was a bit rough. Anyway, we got to Greece and, despite me requesting a ground floor room, we got a first-floor room. This is partially due to her walking so slow as we were the last ones in the hotel and while they would happily swap us, there were no rooms available.

She grandma tried to bribe the receptionist by sliding him two Euros. He told me to speak to the morning receptionist as she might be able to get us another room. In the morning, the receptionist offered to look, but by then grandma already unpacked and didn't want to move. On Saturday I went for a walk, came back for lunch, and my grandma started complaining that the beach was rocky and not sandy enough.

She also complained that we were on the west coast, and therefore it was too windy. I offered to rent a car to go to the east coast that has sandy windless beaches. She disliked the idea due to cost (€50 to rent the car). I told her not to worry. To me, that was a small amount compared to the entire cost of the trip. Anyway, she continued to complain the entire time and play the victim. She got a free holiday! What was she complaining about?

#3 It Wasn't Me, I Swear!

I work in IT security. The number of people who claim they got hacked and need help, just to find out that they are the ones who bypassed our web browsing and antivirus protections to download files from the internet, is always hilarious. It's one thing to play the victim, but it's another to do it over and over and over again.

#4 Nosey Wife

At my old job, we had a guy whose wife worked for the same company but in a different department. She was always coming around and meddling in his business. She always had an opinion of what was going on and was perpetually displeased by everything that we did. Everything was a perceived attack on her husband and she was constantly criticizing us for things that she had no knowledge on. Even sending him to break five minutes late because we were busy would be enough to upset her. She was frequently late to her own area because she’d just hang around and watch us from a distance. She was taken to HR several times for this behavior.

#5 Bridezilla

My cousin basically screwed up her own wedding. She fired her maid of honor at the last minute because the maid of honor took her husband to the hospital rather than go to the hair appointments. She would get upset with our grandmother for not being helpful enough (she's almost 80 and isn't the most mobile). She also forgot to make sure her brother wasn't still running errands for her when the ceremony started, which led to him missing the ceremony. And then she whined for the entire reception and a significant period after about how her wedding didn't go the way she wanted.

#6 Passed out Drama Queen

There's this girl I know who's a complete drama queen. After going out to the bar with friends, she got into her car to go to her ex-boyfriend's house. She put the car in drive and passed out. It rolled forward and hit a vehicle that was parked in front of her. When the police showed up, they found her passed out behind the wheel with her car in drive smashed into another car. She was charged with driving under the influence.

She wanted to fight it because according to her, she "technically wasn't driving at the time." She said the police were bullies for arresting her. She started a GoFundMe page because she needed money for a lawyer to "go after the police" and "teach them a lesson." All she does is complain about how they were being unfair and how they should have let her go.

#7 Note to Self: Never Move in with a Pathological Liar

My roommate kicked himself out of my condo. I didn’t know this before he moved in, but he turned out to be a pathological liar and attention seeker. He fabricated and gossiped all kinds of stories that were easily proven false, then he’d backpedal and lash out if he got caught. I was super uncomfortable with it and privately started making mental plans to give him his 30 days’ notice at the end of his lease. Well, one day I received a few text messages from some mutual colleagues asking if it was true that I was kicking him out that day and I told them that this was the first I was hearing of it.

It turned out that, roughly after the third or fourth time that I caught the roommate in a major lie, he noticed that I wasn’t as chummy with him anymore, and he started spreading a rumor that I hated him now and that I was going to kick him out. He went crying to all of the prettiest ladies of the gossip mill at work about how he was getting kicked out that night. The rumor traveled quickly and he got tons of attention.

So, that night, he came home from drinks with his gossip entourage and started yelling at me about how he’d heard that I was evicting him that night. He demanded to know if the rumor was true. I told him no; that I had no idea what he was talking about. He started ranting and raving about how gossip gets around and continued accusing me.

I told him point-blank that I didn't know what he was talking about because I wasn’t planning on evicting him that day and I had never talked to anyone about evicting him—but I was upfront about my intention to give him notice at the end of his lease. He started yelling, "What date!" He then cut me off and gave himself 30 days' notice from that night. He started accusing me of kicking him out before the holidays then stormed off and updated his whole gossip train that he had been kicked out.

#8 You Don't Know How Good You Have It

A colleague of mine whined about her job 24/7 and she eventually quit. Then, she went to see a psychiatrist because she needed to feel justified that quitting her job meant that she had no regrets and that she couldn't cope (it was a residency program in one of the best hospitals in the country). Her psychiatrist, after evaluating her, straight up told her she was a whiny brat.

#9 Am I the Only One Who Sees This?

One of my family members has a ton of tickets and warrants because he is always driving after being at the bar for hours. He gets mad about being arrested and blames the cops for "catching him." It drives me crazy because other family members keep bailing him out. "Oh, he has a kid, oh he'll lose his job." It really irks me, especially because what he's doing is so dangerous. I just can't with them sometimes.

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#10 Blaming Dad for Everything

My mother. She pulled the old "going to the store" routine when I was a kid. She would call three days later from halfway across the country complaining because dad had shut off the credit cards. To this day, she still tries to make my father the bad guy for her failed attempt at abandoning her family. They divorced shortly after, and I stayed with dad. I've always been second-rate to her for being—in her words—"disloyal."

#11 A Clique of Victims

I’m a nurse. The nurse I gave a shift report to was later seen in a contact isolation room without a gown or gloves on. She claimed she had no idea because I did not tell her in the report that she needed to wear isolation gowns. I was called and yelled at by my boss because the other nurse was in the room. Not me. Her. So I got in trouble and was told to “think of her kids," because she had two children at home who I could have contaminated by not telling her to put gowns on.

There is literally a giant colorful poster in front of every isolation room that tells you to put a gown on before going in. You literally have to push this poster out of the way to even go into the room. If that’s not the biggest point-the-finger then I don’t know what is. And that was the moment I learned that I couldn’t trust my boss because she was the head of that clique. They all play the victim whenever they get the chance.

#12 How Does She Not Know?

My sister with every single relationship. Oh, you don't know why he dumped you? Maybe it's because he was married and your boss and you were dating someone at the time. Your fiance is controlling and cruel, that's why you broke up? Maybe. Or maybe it's all your friends pouring poison in your ears and the married guy you're dating on the side.

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#13 Crazy Ex-Husband

My ex-husband never had a job until I literally got him one. When I got out of the military, he wanted to move to a particular town that he used to live and work in, despite his current employment and me getting a really good job offer as a civilian on base. We agreed that he'd get his prior job back (he assured me he was cool with the manager), and I'd use my GI bill to finish school and raise our son since I had missed his first steps when I was in the military.

Ten months later, I had to get a job and run through my savings. I found out from one of my best friends that my ex knew the manager didn't work there anymore and that he wasn't going to get his old job back. So I had given up a good-paying job for a really bad one and used up all of my savings. I told my ex that I wanted a divorce. He told everyone that I was evil for leaving him high and dry.

#14 Oblivious to his Wrongdoings

There was this guy, I'll call him Chappie because it sounds close enough to a nickname that I have for him. Anyway, Chappie, who was a close friend of mine and many of our guy friends, got himself a girlfriend and he gaslighted her all the time. Chappie would always play the victim. He would always guilt trip you and make you arrange your life around his wishes. He made his girlfriend cry three times a week and then would come to me asking what he did wrong. If I called him out, he'd make excuses. He never accepted his wrongdoings.

#15 Running a Red Light to Get the Green

I once witnessed a car accident where a lady went through a red light and another car (whose light had clearly turned green) didn't see her and hit her broadside. The innocent driver had her view obscured by my vehicle also entering the intersection—I was able to stop, but she couldn't. After the impact, witnesses stopped to help and the lady who ran the red light tried to argue that she was going through on a yellow.

Apparently, she had the nerve to attempt a lawsuit over it because I was later interviewed over the phone by the crazy lady's lawyer, who tried to trip me up by saying another witness claimed to be in the same place I was. Too bad, man. I was right there, and there's no way you can paint me as an unreliable witness for your client to steal money from an innocent woman.

#16 Bully Turned Victim

In middle school, this kid would constantly bully me. It got to the point where most of our class disliked him because I was nice to everyone and considered one of the popular kids. The rest of the class refused to include him in anything. It was to the point where a whole auditorium of 100 kids ganged up against him when he called me a bad name. They didn't beat him up or anything, they just called him out.

Well, he didn't like it, so he decided to falsify bullying claims against me and act like I was harassing him. He would do it every gym class. If he was in my group playing hockey, then he would deliberately position himself to get whacked by my stick whenever I tried to hit the ball and claim I did it on purpose. He would get what few friends he had to claim that I was bullying him. Of course, I did my best to avoid him and everyone knew it. He once crushed the water bottle I had bought with what little personal money I had back then. My teachers informed the gym teachers about him so they never believed him.

#17 And the Award Goes To...

A former friend and housemate (who I stupidly let live at my place rent-free and who I gave some pretty significant help towards lawyer fees) lost her mind when I started voicing my concerns over her new boyfriend. She was still technically married to another man, and the new boyfriend was into all sorts of cultish craziness. They would do things like make these lavish meals in the kitchen and not clean up or block my car in the driveway. Then, she went on a rant in which she compared me to her soon-to-be ex-husband because I hadn't put away a container of cinnamon immediately after using it. When I served an eviction notice to her, she gave an Academy Award-level performance for melodrama.

#18 Taking Victimizing to Another Level

A girl who went to my school made a hate account against herself. She pretended that she didn't make it and would get extremely upset when anyone insinuated that she had made the account. She would say things like, "Maybe this person is right," when the caption of a photo of her was, "The world would be a better place without this girl in it." It was really weird. It was as if she was victimizing herself because she liked it.

#19 Work Problems

This girl at my work is not proactive at all. She always refuses to cooperate and always says she's too busy to do any work. My colleagues and I always agree to complete the extra tasks and to do it as fast as possible because she refuses to. There are only four people in my sector. When the bosses show clear enough that they prefer me instead of this girl, she starts saying that they are misogynous. She's just an awful person and can't realize it.

#20 Unbearable Mom

My mom consistently tries to play the victim when we (her kids) don’t want to see her. She will post on Facebook about how her kids don’t love her and call extended family members to complain. She'll make stuff up so that people think we don’t love her. In reality, she makes it so unbearable to visit her that we don’t want to. She tries to treat us like we’re still toddlers.

#21 I'm Leaving You... For Another Woman

A guy that I used to date broke up with me. Not because we didn't get along or we just didn't click anymore. I was happy. He broke up with me to be with another girl. Then, after he broke it off, he expected me to sympathize with him and his feelings. What a nut case! He was totally playing the victim even though the break up was his fault.

#22 Bridezilla Mom

My mom ruined my courthouse wedding. She called me selfish and made fun of my shoes on my wedding day. She made me swear to her that I wouldn't tell our family I was getting married until we had a big ceremony. Then, she proceeded to go behind my back and tell people anyway. She is now genuinely surprised that I am upset. She's going around crying to all my aunts and uncles about how her only daughter will not speak to her. I wonder why?

#23 This One Has a Happy Ending

When I kicked my ex-boyfriend out of my house, he started playing the “homeless victim” card. When I kicked him out, it had been 10 months after we broke up. He strong-armed me into letting him live with me when I got a better place. I was the only one working and he refused to watch our child while I was at work. He would get mad if I even talked to another guy, and there were multiple cases of my best friend and only ally having to “kidnap” me to get me away from him and keep me safe.

Thankfully, this story got a happy ending! It’s been years since this happened, and now I’m in a healthy, happy, and safe environment. I met and married an amazing human being who held my hand and had my back when I started going to therapy to heal the wounds that were left. He is the father of my youngest. My daughter is now nine years old and is an amazingly sweet and strong girl, and I have an amazing group of friends who are the best support team no could ask for!

#24 Beware of the Catfish

One guy victimized himself for catfishing a woman online. He claimed it was totally harmless, even though he had misled this person into thinking that she was talking to a completely different person for a really long time. It was like he was making it her fault for believing him. I believe he was just trying to prove to himself that he isn't a terrible person. But what he did was pretty awful.

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#25 Oh, Grandpa

We were fishing in my family’s private property. My grandpa locked us in without telling us the code. After hitchhiking to an area where we could get a signal, we got the code and hitchhiked back to get our car. We left the gate unlocked because the family of the other owners was having a birthday party there and we didn’t want to lock them in. When my grandpa heard that we left the gate unlocked, he drove 30 minutes to lock it again, and then complained when people were calling him at 10 p.m. asking for the code so they could leave.

A woman rear-ended my car. This was in the car wash, of all places. She failed to put her car in neutral and rolled right into me. She then proceeded to yell at me and insisted that it was my fault for "not going fast enough." We finally convinced her that the car wash track always goes the same speed, so she decided to blame the car wash employee for making the track too slow.

#27 Silent Prayers

During a Sunday liturgy, I gave the priest the proper intonation for the Gloria in Excelsis, but he started chanting the "Sanctus" instead (which comes much later in the Mass). No one knew how to respond, so the place fell silent. Afterward, the priest blamed me (the organist) for giving him "the wrong intonation" instead of simply admitting that he wasn't infallible and had made a simple mistake.

#28 The World Owes Me Everything

My sister has always been a loose cannon. She creates chaos wherever she goes, whenever she wants. She constantly plays the victim and thinks that the world owes her everything. When we call her out, she gets really defensive. She has no idea how melodramatic she is and is constantly victimizing herself. It's exhausting.

#29 C'mon, Bro

Our whole life, my brother has blamed our middle-class upbringing for him taking zero responsibility. He’s basically a 40-year-old version of “no one gets me." He spends his money recklessly and has turned down opportunities to advance himself in lieu of making YouTube videos in his shed ranting about how the “richies” keep him down. It’s pathetic.

#30 Dude in Debt

This guy got upset saying we were always talking about him behind his back. He would creep up to the door in our apartment and stand there listening to our conversations. Of course, we would talk about him! He owed two of us over 600 dollars and refused to pay it. And then we were the bad people because we would talk about it, in our own apartment, not knowing that he was creeping around the door.

#31 Worst Employee of the Month

An employee was being fired for a multitude of infractions at a coffee shop. He had been caught by management calling customers bad words under his breath and several customers had also reported the behavior. He was constantly late or would leave early and beg others to cover his shift. Instead of restocking or cleaning the area during downtimes, he would take out his drumsticks and 'practice', which annoyed the other employees and customers.

During inventory counts, we noticed whole pallets of sandwiches or baked goods were missing as well as bottled drinks. We were mysteriously out of the huge 5 lbs bags of the espresso roast. The numbers were not adding up. He was subsequently fired after being caught bad-mouthing a customer while a visiting manager was also in the cafe (the guy didn't know it). He blamed all of his issues on everyone else.

#32 This Girl Pulled Out All the Stops

My best friend's ex-girlfriend. Basically her ex was kicked out of her parent's house. She moved in with my best friend since they were dating at the time. At first, she told my friend that she was too upset to find a job. My best friend was okay with that even if it meant she would have to work more, which she did. She even found a second part-time job.

For the next six months, whenever my best friend asked her if she found a job, this girl would say, "I'm too upset to get a job." Eventually, my best friend found out that this girl cheated on her. Her excuse for cheating was, "You're always at work and never have time for me. I need someone who will be there for me." My best friend kicked her out and then her ex blamed her for having to move back in with her parents. The kicker: It turns out that her parents never really kicked her out, she was just tired of them telling her to get a job.

#33 If I Cheat on You, Is It My Fault?

My crazy college girlfriend cheated on me, but that's not even the worst part. After I broke up with her, she blamed me for causing problems in our relationship by being "obsessed with the truth." So, according to her, I caused our breakup because I was suspicious and figured out what had happened. She said she wasn't to blame. She totally played the victim and I wasn't falling for it.

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#36 This Woman is Crazy!

I was in a crowded parking lot driving around looking for a space. There was one car ahead of me. The car ahead of me stopped, so I stopped as well. Then, before I even had time to react, her reverse lights came on and she came flying backwards towards me. I didn't even have time to honk. She slammed into the front of my car, got out of her car, and started screaming that I hit her.

When officers arrived, she was crying and shaking and complaining that her neck hurt. And cursing me for slamming into the back of her car. Thankfully, two people had been walking through the parking lot when this occurred and told the officer what really happened. Later, the driver of the car that hit me tried to tell her insurance company that I knew the witnesses and that's why they lied. I didn't know the witnesses. This woman was crazy.

#37 Cats Will Be Cats

My cat plays with the closet door in my house and sometimes he shuts himself in by accident. Then, after a few seconds, I get an angry cat yowling to let him out. He acts like I'm the one that locked him in there in the first place. But it happens over and over and over. I mean, you can't blame a cat, but come on! Stop locking yourself in the closet!

#38 How Does She Not Know?

My friend's sister doesn't feed her kids and she doesn't send the oldest one (who's only seven years old) to school. Her neighbors reported her to child protection services and now she's posting statuses on Facebook about how cruel people are for separating a mother and her kids. It's pretty simple, lady. Take care of your kids! It's astonishing how she victimizes herself when she is clearly the one in the wrong.

#39 Too Hot for Mom, but the Kid Is Okay

My cousin would leave her youngest kid, who was two years old, outside alone. Finally, a few neighbors called child protection services. They came out and told her that she can't leave her kid outside. My cousin tried to feed them some line about how her two-year-old was outside, but she was sitting just inside the building watching because it was "too hot" for her to be outside. Too hot for an adult, but okay for a two-year-old.

#40 Show Me the Money!

I quit my job and set up my own competing business with my ex-employer after he failed to pay me for two months, claiming non-payment from the clients. He had a massive go at me after I confronted him with receipts from the clients to show payment. He accused me of making him look bad in front of his clients and said that he didn't owe me the money because "some people are bosses and some people are employees."

I quit the job and warned a few of my ex-coworkers to be careful and not let him take advantage of them. I took him to court to try to recoup the money he owed me for the work I completed and the judge ruled in my favor for the full amount. He then played the victim card with everyone he knew and said that I made him and his family homeless despite the fact that he never paid me a penny of the money owed. It honestly blows my mind every time I think about it.

#41 Where's Mom?

My mom would disappear for weeks at a time, leaving me alone when I was seven to 10 years old. I spent a lot of time at my friend's house, who lived a stone's throw away. They had a massive family and were used to having a whole bundle of kids in and out of the house, so they never really batted an eye or suspected much. My friend's grandmother, on the other hand, wouldn't let me come over because she said I was like a stray cat. I was only eight when it was at it's worst and I just told people my mom worked a lot. I'd get myself up for school in the mornings and catch the bus, would eat lunch at school, and whenever I got home, I'd either eat at my friend's if they offered.

#42 A Woman So Awful She Forced a Teacher to Quit

When I was teaching, I had a student who had some behavior problems. I did everything I could to support him. One day, we were taking a test and he was talking. I reminded him several times that talking during a test is not allowed and that I would have him go in the hallway if he continued. He continued talking, so I told him to go into the hall. He called me a name on the way out, so I wrote him up. I called his parents and they didn't answer, so I sent an email explaining what had happened. His mother responded saying that my behavior was unacceptable and that she was done speaking with me. She said I would hear from her lawyer. She went all the way up to the district level to complain about me and told all sorts of lies, making me look like a horrible person. I don't teach anymore.

#43 Sneaky Grandma

An older lady walked into a construction area where she knew she wasn’t supposed to go, just to snoop around when the workers weren’t there. She then sued the company because she slipped on a plastic floor covering while walking unsupervised after all of the workers had gone home. She worked there. She knew the area was off-limits. Did it anyway.

#44 Crying to Daddy

I was in line in my car to enter an amusement park. All of a sudden, the car in front of me threw on their reverse lights and backed into me hard. I got out and was talking to the driver, a 17-year-old girl, about what I needed: her driver license and insurance info. She kept trying to delay giving me the information because she wanted to call her parents first. Fine, no problem... she called her dad and as they were talking, she calmed down and her face lit up.

She turned to me and said loudly in a snarky tone while holding the phone towards me, "Did I hit you, or did you hit me? Because before I backed up, I checked my mirror and my passenger checked hers and you weren't there and then all of a sudden we felt a hit..." I replied, "Are you implying I rear-ended you?" And she said, "I'm not sure, but I think you might have."

I pointed to my car and said, "Do you see that little thing beside my rearview mirror, that's a dashcam and it's been recording since I left my house and is currently recording our conversation. Now, if you want to go this route, we can, but the police are going to be notified." She started crying and said on the phone, "No dad, he has a dashcam and it's recording everything." Then came the waterworks, she started trying to get me to talk to her dad. Finally, I got the info out of her and had to get the front end of my car fixed.

#45 What Did You Think Was Going to Happen?

A local business owner and friend asked his regular customers to invest in his new business in Atlanta by buying shares. I bought in, knowing that we wouldn't break even for at least three years, but this guy could sell religion to the Pope. We had losses for two years and broke-even at three as predicted. Four years in, he closed the Atlanta store and opened in another town, but this time he did it with "his own money." That was a lie. He was doing it with the inventory and proceeds from the Atlanta store. He even has a shiny new house, cars, and the works for his new venture. When all of the shareholders took him to court, he said he was "shocked to the core, and hurt, I tell you. Hurt and disappointed!"